Therapy

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The greek word "therapy" is the act of attending to someone. It implies the therapist intentionality to take care and support the patient. If you are looking at this page now, it is probably because it might be the right time to be heard and to hear yourself. The right time for you to take care of yourself.

There are common ideas or sentences that I have heard people saying when I've met them. Some might have heard somebody telling them:

• you need help;
• you're a narcisist;
• you're not who you used to be;
• you're a burden.

Some others, come to therapy for other reasons:

• I have lost somebody and life does not make any sense anymore;
• I am addicted to...;
• I alway end up with the same people;
• I don't cry and and I don't care (but they do care);
• I can't stop, I keep exhausting myself;
• I am getting old and then what?
• I don't know who I am.

Most of us go to therapy carrying labels (I am depressed, I have or I am a personality disorder and so on...). I would like to invite you to carry all your labels as if they were boxes. Then I will ask you to open them with me one by one and we'll take care of the content. We will use what necessary and bin what you don't need anymore. There is no point in travelling heavy all the times, life is a journey too rich to be slowed down by useless weight. 

Many people come to therapy because they want answers. I believe that we need to create the right questions instead. Answers close the “space”, make us rush into definitions that reduce meaning in our lives. However, the right questions make space for novelty to emerge and make space for us to find new meanings. 

I believe that there is a time in life when we feel ready to start the therapeutic journey with somebody. This moment is called the "kairos", the appropriate time. Like sailors would not venture themselves in the inclement weather conditions, so shouldn't we. I can help you decide if this is your time. 

I support therapy as an act of responsibility. By this I do not mean, culpability, blame or guilt. I mean the "the ability to respond" to ourselves and to other people or life events. We can't heal or fix everything, but we can relate and respond to what is making us suffer. 

I am not particularly focused on a therapy based on "who have you been" as much as "who are you being and who may you be". Therapy is the place where we can still surprise ourselves, where the unexpected is yet to come. 

I also do not perceive psychopathology as something that you have or suffer from but as something that belongs to our relationships, our life situations. As a consequence, I address the relationship (ours first of all) and I don't work on you "as if you were the problem." 

Last, but most important for me, therapy is the attempt to make present what has been absent. Desperation is the impossibility to share something. Those tears that cannot be found because lost somewhere.`Those words that we could not say.`The smile we had forgotten thinking we could not claim it along with that feeling of being alive and willing to try again. Whatever is absent for too long in our life-world, becomes a hidden burden. There is something healing in presence. Ultimately therapy is the process of making present what has been absent .